Continuing in the discussion of singleness, I remind you of the definition which entails the recognition of your unique qualities, the ability to live on your own, and the knowledge that you are whole and healed from any prior relationships or circumstances.

Let’s move on to looking as separateness. Are you dependent on your parents or another person? Are you independent and content with periods of time alone? Are you able to sustain a job and pay your own bills? Have you maintained a home for yourself for at least a year? Have you been separate from your previous relationship for a couple years? If you can’t answer ‘yes’ to last four questions, you are not separate, but dependent in some way. You should not consider bringing another person into your situation until you have proven your independence over a span of time. Be your own person before you ‘hook your wagon’ to another person and become dependent upon them.

From the book:

“Separateness deals with your ability to live well on your own. The psychological benefit of knowing I can make it independently keeps me from rushing into relationship
decisions. I am comfortable spending time alone. I am confident in my ability to financially support myself. I know who I am, what I stand for, and what I would like in a partner. I’m not promoting hermitage, but a healthy lifestyle of independence. Once I establish my separateness, I have a higher probability of successful future relationships, because my
tendency to remain in unacceptable circumstances for fear of not being able to make it alone disappears.” (Taylor, Joy S., Before You Kiss the Frog…Can We Talk?, Lily of the Valley Publishing Services, 2025, Indiana, p. 11.)

If you are a parent of teens, get this book and go through it page-by-page along with them. If you are an adult who works with teens or college students, buy this book and study it with them. If you are a grandparent, buy this book and speak into the lives of your grands. Do you struggle with relationships? The decision trees in this book will change your perspective and give you a path to more successful relationships.

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