Surviving and healing from abuse is a life-long process. The circumstances are life-altering, thought-pattern-changing and emotionally recurring. Sometimes flashbacks don’t need a trigger, they just pop up. Victims need to possess a set of tools to combat the recurring effects. The events of the leadership meeting were a trigger in my case. It was the pivotal moment of my membership at FCCF. What is the church doing for the victims?

“I exited the meeting drained by what I just witnessed. I never expected to see my minister in the same mode of operation I had experienced from my ex-husband. I flashed back to one of our darkest arguments as I made the ten-minute drive home.

The next two weeks were dotted with sleepless nights and bad dreams. I never forgot the eyes of the abuser in my home. I can see them as I write this account of the meeting. I know the glare of someone who promises to love you while they tear you apart emotionally and spiritually. I know the look. I will never forget the look in Steve Wingfield’s eyes, either.” (Taylor, Joy S., A View from the Pews — The Inside Story of a Broken Church, 2022, Lily of the Valley Publishing, Santa Claus IN, p. 97.)

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